My natural inclination is to step in a do what needs to be done and fix things if necessary. If something fails, I immediately wonder what personal mistake I made somewhere along the line. People assume you will always take care of it. Somewhere along the line, you will figure that the problems aren't a failing of yours, but a lifestyle choice or arrogance of those who like being waited on.
After a while, you will grow to resent it. That won't stop these same people from preying on your sense of duty. I'll bet your upbringing had family who you were constantly fixing things for (mine sure did) and I guess it's not surprising that those same personalities would gravitate to you in the SCA.
I struggle with saying 'no' all the time. Even when I'm ragingly bitter about the whole steaming mess it leads me into. I've never really taken a break from the SCA in about 27 years, but I feel one coming on....
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After a while, you will grow to resent it. That won't stop these same people from preying on your sense of duty. I'll bet your upbringing had family who you were constantly fixing things for (mine sure did) and I guess it's not surprising that those same personalities would gravitate to you in the SCA.
I struggle with saying 'no' all the time. Even when I'm ragingly bitter about the whole steaming mess it leads me into. I've never really taken a break from the SCA in about 27 years, but I feel one coming on....
Have you ever watched "a man for all seasons"?