My next event won't be until War. With dealing with the house and estate stuff I do not have the time or money to make any events this summer and as it is I'm going to be tight for war as well.

But the basic answer is, if he offers my services I will serve... When and where I can. I still will not drop everything to the expense of myself, my finances and my family. Right now I am more or less living hand to mouth in order to make the Doma livable and to afford the moving expenses. I can't work a reign. I dont' know when I can afford to do so even after I move merely due to the expenses that I have to take on with the occupation of the house.

I would also expect that he would tell me that he said that I would be able to help out with someone's reign.

Again, part of it falls under... it is nice to be asked. Even if it is a "Oh, I told X that you would help if you are available" ahead of time rather than get to an event or the like and be told then when I might have had other plans for said event.

Yes, service is love made visible, but at the same time, sometimes the best representation of service is to not be there. If I cannot give my all and do what I know needs to be done I am doing a disservice to not only myself but those that I am claiming to love by serving.