I just gotta say
Feb. 21st, 2005 08:55 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
baronessekatBoo and I were talking today and we were dicussing the use of the LJ in a person's life. We had found someone who had posted to their journal that to be part of a community you must post everyday and you must read your friends stuff every day.
My question is why? Why must I post every day in order to be part of a community. Will my community disown me for not posting every day? If they do, I don't think I want to be part of that community.
My community is my family. The family I made. They understand that there are times when I am not feeling social and don't want to talk. They don't judge me if I decide to post twice in once day or only twice in a month.
I don't use my LJ for validation that I exist in someone else's world. I do not sit here with baited breath waiting for a comment to something I posted. If I did... well.. I would hope someone would help me to get a life.
I'm touched when a friend comments about one of my work adventures. Or sympathizes when I talk about a bad day. But I'm not going to disown Woogieman because he hasn't commented on something I've written... or for the fact that he hasn't posted in ages. And I'm not going to only speak to Boo because she posts everyday.
That's just plain petty and infantile.
In my opinion, the point of having an LJ verus a real book form journal, is to share things with people. But if you need to have the validation and confirmation that you are ok by having comments back on stuff taht is written in your LJ... all I can say is...
GET A LIFE
It's unrealistic to expect people to post everyday AND reply to every little thing someone else writes. Hell today is the first day in almost TWO weeks where I have been healthy enough to sit at my home computer and type. Instead of coming home from work and going straight to bed. And if those who read my LJ can't understand that... that's just too bad for them.
And you know what... I know that some of the things that I write don't warrent a comment. I mean... do I care if anyone else cares that I don't like Peaches and Creame Oatmeal. Nope. Am I going to go drown myself in self loathing and misery because no one sympathized with me over the oatmeal comment. Nope.
I got better things to do.
So to those people who say I must post everyday and that I'm no real friend because I don't reply to everything my friends write in their LJ all I can say is... then don't put me on your friends list.
My question is why? Why must I post every day in order to be part of a community. Will my community disown me for not posting every day? If they do, I don't think I want to be part of that community.
My community is my family. The family I made. They understand that there are times when I am not feeling social and don't want to talk. They don't judge me if I decide to post twice in once day or only twice in a month.
I don't use my LJ for validation that I exist in someone else's world. I do not sit here with baited breath waiting for a comment to something I posted. If I did... well.. I would hope someone would help me to get a life.
I'm touched when a friend comments about one of my work adventures. Or sympathizes when I talk about a bad day. But I'm not going to disown Woogieman because he hasn't commented on something I've written... or for the fact that he hasn't posted in ages. And I'm not going to only speak to Boo because she posts everyday.
That's just plain petty and infantile.
In my opinion, the point of having an LJ verus a real book form journal, is to share things with people. But if you need to have the validation and confirmation that you are ok by having comments back on stuff taht is written in your LJ... all I can say is...
GET A LIFE
It's unrealistic to expect people to post everyday AND reply to every little thing someone else writes. Hell today is the first day in almost TWO weeks where I have been healthy enough to sit at my home computer and type. Instead of coming home from work and going straight to bed. And if those who read my LJ can't understand that... that's just too bad for them.
And you know what... I know that some of the things that I write don't warrent a comment. I mean... do I care if anyone else cares that I don't like Peaches and Creame Oatmeal. Nope. Am I going to go drown myself in self loathing and misery because no one sympathized with me over the oatmeal comment. Nope.
I got better things to do.
So to those people who say I must post everyday and that I'm no real friend because I don't reply to everything my friends write in their LJ all I can say is... then don't put me on your friends list.
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*rolls eyes*
Date: 2005-02-21 06:14 pm (UTC)I am ashamed.
Its all about balance
Date: 2005-02-23 08:31 am (UTC)And I know I dont post often, or ever really, but that's just because im trying to maintain the cosmic balance. See, you post every few days, and the 'decea posts all the time. So in order to keep a good balance, there needed to be someone that hardly ever posts. And so I fill that position.