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baronessekatI'm officially asking folks that if you have anything more in regards to my last post, unless it has something to do with the actual topic of the rant and not my choice of phrases, please stop. Take the conversations to your own journals, emails or private messages.
Of the 45 comments only 7 actually dealt with the topic of the rant - that not properly approaching a dog, without owner permission, can be dangerous either for the child or the dog or both.
I am not going to apologize for my choice of words in my journal or in a note on my facebook page. Yes I titled both as Dear Friends with Children. But if you chose to read it, if you chose to take offense at a choice of language that I CONSCIOUSLY made in a rant, I cannot take responsibility. I will not take ownership of another persons feelings. As has been said, don't like, don't read. I do not ask for anyone to read my writings. But at the same time, I will not start locking every post. If there is something that I feel strongly about that feel should only be read by certain eyes, I am capable of using a filter or - contacting those people in a less public forum.
Only one person directed their objection to the phrase directly to me. But not one person contacted me, either through comments or privately to ask why I chose it, was I aware that it is offensive, or anything else. Do I mean that phrase to refer to all members of that age group, a specific subgroup, etc. And at this point, the situation has gotten out of hand and I will not answer those question in a public forum. There are ways to get a hold of me. Most have my email addresses. If you don't, both LJ and FB have the ability to send private messages. Hell, some of even have my phone number and/or know where I live.
But I do have to wonder one small thing. Was the offense because of the words or because they came from me. Seriously. I have friends that HAVE used that phrase before (thus, where I got it) and no one has raised anywhere near this kind of fuss. Did I offend more because I broke some preconceived norm for "Ekat"?
Anyway, I ask again, unless the response is in direct relationship to the actual topic, please stop commenting on the last post.
Of the 45 comments only 7 actually dealt with the topic of the rant - that not properly approaching a dog, without owner permission, can be dangerous either for the child or the dog or both.
I am not going to apologize for my choice of words in my journal or in a note on my facebook page. Yes I titled both as Dear Friends with Children. But if you chose to read it, if you chose to take offense at a choice of language that I CONSCIOUSLY made in a rant, I cannot take responsibility. I will not take ownership of another persons feelings. As has been said, don't like, don't read. I do not ask for anyone to read my writings. But at the same time, I will not start locking every post. If there is something that I feel strongly about that feel should only be read by certain eyes, I am capable of using a filter or - contacting those people in a less public forum.
Only one person directed their objection to the phrase directly to me. But not one person contacted me, either through comments or privately to ask why I chose it, was I aware that it is offensive, or anything else. Do I mean that phrase to refer to all members of that age group, a specific subgroup, etc. And at this point, the situation has gotten out of hand and I will not answer those question in a public forum. There are ways to get a hold of me. Most have my email addresses. If you don't, both LJ and FB have the ability to send private messages. Hell, some of even have my phone number and/or know where I live.
But I do have to wonder one small thing. Was the offense because of the words or because they came from me. Seriously. I have friends that HAVE used that phrase before (thus, where I got it) and no one has raised anywhere near this kind of fuss. Did I offend more because I broke some preconceived norm for "Ekat"?
Anyway, I ask again, unless the response is in direct relationship to the actual topic, please stop commenting on the last post.
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Date: 2009-06-25 01:03 pm (UTC)Sillyviking (who adores dogs and will often ask to be able to pet them on the street, in lieu of actually having one) once was badly bitten on his hand by a dog in our old neighborhood AFTER he asked permission and extended his hand to the dog for an introductory sniff. Since the owner had warned him that the dog was a 'biter', sillyviking said it was his own fault for taking the risk of trying to be friends. And that was that.